Just a quick update to say that I had my 10 week ultrasound yesterday and #2 is doing great! My high risk OB got these HUGE flat screen TVs so you can see the baby without killing your neck turning sideways. The baby was moving a ton!
Not much else is going on except for us trying to transition Jack from our bed to his crib. It's AWEFUL!!! He wakes up frequently in the night and the moment he realizes he's alone he starts to cry. We moved him into a smaller crib in our room thinking it would be an easier transition but he's playing the same game in there now. I think he's manipulating us. I got a book that says you should put them to bed with a routine (bath, book, whatever you decide) then say goodnight and close the door. Don't go back in because that just stimulates them again. It kills me to hear him cry and he will cry for an hour straight in the middle of the night too. We were going back in to lay him down with his pacifier and cover him but from what I read, that's a bad idea. I think tonight we'll try the close the door and don't go in routine but it will be terrible for me. Maybe I'll sleep downstairs? If anyone has suggestions we'd love to hear them! I'm so tired from being pregnant so it's hard to be kept up all night. I'm also a softy with Jack so it's hard not to run in and hold him.
(I saw the signature on Sofie's blog and loved it. Hope you don't mind that I'm stealing your idea Jen!)
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Dear Vic,
I am a coworker of Jen Miller and have been following Jack's Blog; what a cutie! Anyway, we had trouble with our preterm daughter and sleep. My mom sent me Ferber's book "How to solve your child's sleep problems." What a life saver! Jack needs to relearn how to self settle; once you put him down, you need to wait 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, then 15 minutes, etc before going in. When you go in, you DO Not pick up, just comfort and soothe. It worked like a charme with our daughter; our second daughter threw up on us after 45 minutes--haha. The first time we did it, my husband and I sat on a couch, holding hands--traumatized, but it did work! I have needed my sleep as a working mother for the past 21.5 years!
Kathy Jackson
Your baby is so cute! I'm glad everything is going well.
The cry-it-out method didn't work for Claire because, like Jack, she would cry forever if we let her and I couldn't stand that.
What worked with her was putting her in the crib and then standing beside it and rubbing her back or singing until she went to sleep. If she stood up I would just keep laying her back down and saying "night-night". She eventually learned to go to sleep on her own (without nursing or being rocked) this way, but it helped her to know that I was there and she was not alone. Eventually I was able to just stand there a few minutes until she settled down and then walk out. Now I just lay her down and say "night-night" and walk out immediately. I do leave her door open until she falls asleep though, so that she won't feel totally alone in there.
Good Luck!
Hi,
Congratulations on your new addition!!Hope you are well.
We are having problems with Kaden waking during the night crying - he is in a bed next to ours so i lean over and give him his baby (comforter) and he goes back to sleep straight away,but recently it can be upto 5-10 times a night.Hopefuly its just a faze.
Gil
Hi:
I really think that you have to put down the books and do what works best for you and your family. I am not a big fan of Ferber-izing. I could not stand to hear my little one cry for hours on end.
We did something similar to Cindy's suggestion above. We stayed in the room with Nathaniel until he fell asleep, holding his hand, rubbing his back, etc. Then, when he would wake up in the middle of the night, we would repeat the end of the bedtime routine (read a book, rock and sing, whatever works for you) and put him back down.
He slept in bed with us too and we had to transition him out. I wrote to a college friend of my husband's asking advice on transitioning. She gave me pretty sage advice - "Do what works for you. Transitioning really means two weeks of [heck] until the new patterns sets in.
Good Luck!
Also - I don't know how you feel about this because leaving toys in the bed is not considered "safe". We leave a book, rattle and a lovie in Nathaniel's bed. He has a nightlight and I will often wake up at night and hear him rattling his toy or "reading" his book. It really helped him to self soothe when he had something to do in the middle of the night.
Ha! I don't mind at all Vic. Considering I stole it from someone else!
On the sleep thing, I'm sorry I'm not much help. We are SO lucky Sofie has always slept like a rock. But she's pretty much always slept in her own bed, so there wasn't a transition for her. Best of luck!
So happy for continued good reports for baby #2. Can't wait to see Jack as a big bro!
WOW! i lost contact for a while, Congrats! im so happy to hear about baby number 2! how exciting! i wish you nothing but the best and a healthy uneventful pregnancy. i know you have to be overjoyed!!! Congrats again, and heres to a wonderful new year! JAck is growing so big, he is adorable and as always such an inspiration.
much love
Dotty
Congratulations on baby #2!!!
Amber
hey vicki, although anneleise liked going in to the bed we got some soft toys that only could be played in her bed, so when she went to sleep they were there also we got an extra night light to this day after a year in the bed she stills goes in there we read a few books (short ones lots of pics!) and i tell her that im going to bed see her inthe morning and well eat breakfast, i remind her that she has to stay in the bed and go to sleep but she can play with only those toys, i put them away during the day.
we still have her crib bedding on it to, when i took it off she got upset...
i will happen in time, oh by the way when we started we had both beds in there, we didnt have a good night until the crib was gone!
Awww that photo of baby number 2 is great!
We had issues with Sir Noah and I agree with the comment from Kathy - we were told the same thing. One of the most important things children need to learn is how to comfort themselves because we all wake a bit and go back to sleep every night. We don't recall it because we learned this.
Baby #2 looking good! You all are going to start all over again!
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